“I also resent the assumption that this is about young girls getting pregnant.

I was married and had two children our marriage broke down and I left. I have always worked to provide for the children and haven't claimed benefits other than a little bit of Tax Credit that I get each week.

I have never stopped my husband from seeing the children, that is not my right. He has done nothing wrong to them and has as much right to see them as I do, whether he pays for their upkeep or not. That is another issue. You can't make your children's father pay to see them, that teaches them the wrong things. But that's another issue.

He did pay some maintanance for a couple of months then decided he had better things to spend his money on as is often the case. I contacted the CSA who told me after about 6 months that the case had been closed as their correspondence to him had been returned marked "not known at this address". I'd provided all details to the CSA including my ex husband's NI number and works payroll number - included full details of his employer etc. I don't know his address anymore as he lives in a different town and won't igive us the address to avoid the CSA, but he does visit the kids still (12 years on) and does sometimes give them a few quid. The CSA won't pursue the case.

I've had to struggle for 12 years but I don't mind, they are my children and I'll do what I have to, but I do resent him not having contributed to their upbringing.

I feel sorry for him as the children don't really have any respect for him and they are all too aware of the differences in terms of committment to them that myself and their father demonstrated. I'm happy with what I've done now they are almost adults, sadly he's not feeling as happy with what he's done, but it's too late now to try to make it up.

Unfortunately you reap what you sow, but there are so many people out there who really don't care. They don't care about their children and note I say people not fathers, but also mothers. Nothing will make them take an interest in their children or contribute to their upbringing in anyway. The best thing for the kids is to stop trying to force parents who have opted out to be invovled. Just get on with life best you can and do what you know is right.

On another note - Accidentally getting someone pregnant is a risk you take when you don't use contraception - by that I mean take responsibility for yourself using contraception not relying on the say so of someone else. Accidents should be parented and paid for as well, there's no escape clause signed upto when you have sex with someone.”

“I have always refused to pay maintrenence via the CSA because I disagree with a percentage of it going to the children that they cannot collect payments for and for the wages of the CSA staff.
When I pay maintence, 100% of it goes directly to where I want it to make the difference, MY SON. I also buy his clothes, give him pocket money AND give his mother money to go towards his upkeep.
If you're not prepared to pay for your childs upkeep, use contraception. You do not deserve to be called a Father if you cannot or will not contribute.”

“i receive 5.00 a month child support from my ex because he does not work i was told by tax credits that they dont take in to account maintanence payments when working out how much you get so some one who gets 400 pounds a month child maintanence gets the same tax credits as me who gets hardly any maintanence huuh”

“i receive 5.00 a month child support from my ex because he does not work i was told by tax credits that they dont take in to account maintanence payments when working out how much you get so some one who gets 400 pounds a month child maintanence gets the same tax credits as me who gets hardly any maintanence huuh”

“Andyvon, Aylesbury

Just want to point out that this is not always the case!! I was a young mum and yeas i'm not with the father anymore but do not refuse to let him see his children. Also i have never once been on benifits i have managed to work full time whilst being a single mother and i'm now back at college training to be a nurse. My children do not miss out on any birthday and christmas presents and never want for nothing. Please do not assume that just because some girls have children young and do not give them a good upbringing that every teenage mother is like that.”

“Perhaps people should actually spend a couple of years really getting to know what sort of a person your partner is BEFORE HAVING A CHILD - I'm 27 and although I would love to have children I have not yet found a man good enough to raise a child with. I choose to ensure my future children will have a morally decent father instead of popping out a sprog at the earliest opportunity and then complaining that the father is a pratt and won't support his child. Don't be so quick to jump into bed in the first place, after all, it takes two people to make a baby!

I just look at my sister who was with her bloke for 6 years when she fell pregnant. He was always a complete idiot (drink and recreational drug issues) but yet she still chose to have his baby. Now no doubt she's going to read this article and add a comment joining in the 'ex-bashing' because he too refused to support his child.

The CSA now take money for his child straight from his earnings but somehow it never gets to my sister!?

Prevention is better than a cure people. If you insist of casual sex then for the sake of society use a frigging condom!!!”

“the so called father of my child refused to pay child support the csa were called in and so far i get payments when and if they can be bothered to send them. a detatchment of earnings is in place though the payments never get sent so my son doesnt recieve a penny oh what hes entitled too.
the guy who commented on her about children especially boys needing a father is wrong, years ago when fathers worked and the mothers raised there children , there kids turned out fine with there fathers not being around 24/7 so i believe so long as the mother is there for the child and doesnt deprive them of what the need then being without a father isnt really a problem. especially playing football and changing brakes many women are now able to do this for them selves so im sure they could teach there off spring. dont judge all mothers by the few that wont allow contact i have repeatedly tried to get my sons father to have contact and when he does he then put my child inthe background and forgets about him then causing upset to my son so i believe im well within my right to stop contact until my son is old enough to understand what a pr**k his father really is”

“My daughters ex partner got his self a solicitor who even want to the tribunal as he could not because he was working abroad. He told the tribunal that his client had no money as he had set up a new company which he has and it makes no money. My daughter informed the CSA that he was working abroad also he owned 2 houses and rented his mothers out and that he also lived with his girlfriend the CSA's answer was find out the details of who he is working for and we will see what we can do, as they are not allowed to access his tax or NI records”

“The CSA figures are false,

Without going into boring details, The arm of the CSA that takes action set up there bonus scheme to process cases faster and this meant from 2002-2008 you were pushed through the courts ( that's were this figure comes from ).

As anyone who has had to deal with the csa knows that they will try impose a charge of around £ 130,00 per week and you have to fight it down from there, even if your unemployed you get this figure.

Hence, anyone who does not fight it, get debts supposedly of approx £ 6000 per year.

I can guarantee that less than a million of that 11 million is really owed. the rest of the figure were just inflated so the managers at the CSA could hit bonus targets and get paid more.

this was changed in 2008, but no body bothered to provocatively go back through the courts and correct the liability orders.

I have had 17 thousand pounds worth of CSA debt, never owed a penny, ( i was also a single parent ). All this was through the court, all dissapeared when they checked there system agin ( i threatend court )

I fought and told the truth all the way along, filled out all the paperwork, did everything, none of it mattered, non of it stopped the court action, I knew it was wrong,

The problem is not just the CSA, its the courts aroundf here allowing liability orders impossed against the public to go unchecked.”

“This article really riles me!
just before i met my husband he had a one night stand. yes careless and a moment of stupidity! but, it turned out the lass also had 2 other men around that time to, as when he finally heard he had a son 2 years later, he was 3rd in the line for DNA testing!
Turned out he was possitive. Could he see the child? NO! the mother wouldnt allow it.
After our windows being put through by her family, our property/cars vandilised etc. we was still forced to pay the CSA. It turned out she did it because she wanted to get pregnant.
I strongly agree that fathers who are ina proper relationship with their partners and have a child should then pay when their relationship breaks down.. But being threatened, knowing nothing for 2years and then being made to backdate payments its ridiculous. and very unfair!
We now have 2 children of our own, telling the CSA that is unbelievable, they are more worried about the "child" getting money from us than our own children having enough! I think the CSA needs scrapping, and all those families who deserve payments should get them, the little imature women who set out to trap someone shouldnt be allowed to be a parent.
We have never faltered on any payments since finding out. Its just very unfair how its all worked out.”